Long Distance Relationship: What You Should Know

Long Distance Relationship: What You Should Know

I have not met anyone that genuinely love their partner and want to stay miles away from them. However, there are some scenarios where long distance relationship is inevitable. Long distance relationship sucks. I get it, i have been there.

Long-distance relationship is not all that bad. I have also met so many lovely couples that started out with long distance and it made their love stronger and better.

“Distance or Absence makes the heart grow fonder” – they say

A Long Distance Relationship (LDR) is an intimate relationship between partners who are geographically separated from one another.
If you are in LDR or have had it before you are one of the lucky few to experience an interesting and unique way to love.

Importance Of Long Distance Relationship

There are so many negative aspects associated with LDR today and sometimes hard to see the silver lining around them. Although being separated from your partner can place a physical and emotional limitation on your day-to-day life, there are actually many benefits to this type of relationship.

    1. Individual Growth: The Distance between you and your partner compels individuality. In a LDR, you have time to think about your own values, your own goals and helps you to be independent.

    2. Strengthens Emotional Bond: Society today is obsessed with sex, it is everywhere — on television and in the media, talk shows and magazines today tell us that sex is the primary part of a relationship, although it is important it should not be the dominant force driving a relationship. The great thing about a LDR is it can help strengthen the bond that goes beyond the physical between YOU and your partner,because you have more time to talk to each other about yourselves and about each other.

    3. Appreciation for the moments spent together: When you’re around someone constantly, it can be easy to take them for granted. It is a sad truth, but sometimes being away from the person you love can be good for you, yes. Distance teaches you and your partner the value of your Relationship, as well as greater appreciating the time you two get to spend together, you start missing their laughs,jokes,and their company. This is not bad, it just shows you how much you love your partner.

    4. Test your Love: To be willing to spend days, weeks, or even months apart is a great accomplishment, and in the end it can bring much happiness when you and your partner are reunited again. Long distance relationship fosters communication and Trust-building. These two features are a must for any Relationship and enable it to run smoothly. Being in a LDR can help strengthen these aspects as more time and effort is spent on them, since each individual cannot be physically near each other.

Long distance relationships are amazing and when done right, can be filled with lots of beautiful emotions and memories with your partner.
The truth is that LDR is a tricky affair and need utmost commitment from both sides to make it work.
Most of long distance relationships fail due to lack of commitment and communication. One might tend to feel lonely over time due to the lack of physical touch and intimacy which may ruin the relationship gradually.

How to make your partner miss you

Here are a few tips or tricks to make you can follow to make your girlfriend miss you 

  1. Don’t call her for a while: Make her wonder what you’re up to. Act like you don’t care as much as her about conversing via phone/internet
    Be aloof and she will start missing you and that will make her want to make more frequent contact with you.

  2. Have a healthy social life: Hang out with your friends, make new ones and do things that you enjoy. Post pictures of your fun on social media because ladies are moved by what we see. Tell her how great of a time it was and she will start to miss you and wish that she could be a part of it.

  3. Change your Appearance: You can actually look sexy and romantic as a guy, it’s not just for the ladies. Try and look good for your partner; Work out, grow a beard, dye your hair, cut your hair when due just try and  improve your looks. She will worry about others finding your new look and start missing you.

  4. Plan a trip to see her: Make plans to see your partner, plan a trip with or without her knowledge. She may like a surprise visit, i do enjoy them. Remember important date and commemorate them.

 
Here are a few tips or tricks to make you can follow to make your boyfriend miss you 

 

  1. Avoid Excessive Communication: The first step crucial for every relationship is to stop communicating excessively with your boyfriend, if you’re the type of girl that texts or calls him too much,you may be seen as a possessive or clingy person sometimes it’s tiring for them. Communicating with your guy 24/7 is not really necessary to keep the relationship going. Remember to keep it short and sweet to make him miss talking to you.

  2. Don’t reply to his texts or calls immediately: If you want your guy to miss you, stop replying to his texts or calls immediately and create a sense of longing before you reply to him. Create an impression that you’re busy and tell him that you missed replying to the calls or messages because of work. This will make him wonder what you’re doing without him and make him long for your calls and messages.

  3. Wait for him to call you first: Have you always been the one to initiate a text or call with your partner? If the answer is YES, now is the time to take a step back and wait for him to initiate the call. Being the first one to initiate a call will make him stop thinking about you, since you will always make time to communicate with him. When you stop calling or texting him, he will start to wonder why you are not calling him and it’ll make him to miss you more.

  4. Send him pictures : Send him nice and sexy pictures to make him think about you. There might be certain kinds of clothes that he may want to see you in. Indulge in his fantasies and tease him by sending raunchy pictures in various costumes to make him go crazy and to really miss you. But be sure that you really trust your guy before doing this. Only do so if you’re comfortable enough and not compulsion.

  5. Remind him with gifts: The olfactory sense is a unique sensory function of a human being and it is usually associated with memories. You get a whiff of a smell and get instantly reminded of the person or a certain memory etched in your mind.You can send him wristwatch, perfume that you use, or a T-shirt that smells of you that he can cuddle up in while missing you and be reminded of you at the same time.

  6. Cybersex: Long Distance can always take a toll on your Relationship due to lack of physical intimacy. So an interesting way to spice up your sex life and bring you guys closer is to indulge in phone or cybersex with your better half. Both can look forward to enjoy the intimacy which comes with it and in turn, spice up your sex life. So fix up a time, create a romantic setting and start building up the pressure by sending him seductive messages to make him go crazy with lust. This will make him look forward to spending more time with you.

  7. Stay involved in his life and listen to him: Though they might come across as a person who is in control, men do need assurance from time to time. Let him know that you’re always there for him no matter how far he is and you will always support him.Talk to him about his life,such as his study, work or family stress that might be affecting his state of mind. Just be there and listen to him talk so that he can be reassured that you are there for him always. Let him know that you love him or miss him. Hearing you say these words will make him miss you more.

  8. Spend time with your friends and share your adventures: When you’re apart from your boyfriend, share your adventures with him. It is necessary to make him know that you can have fun without him, though this might make your man happy for some time, he might also feel jealous of you having fun without him. It will make him miss you and want to spend more time with you.

  9. Get yourself a makeover to make him miss you: Funny right? But very true…Getting a makeover will do wonders to your Relationship and make him know the things he is missing out. Get yourself a new hair style, always change your look, don’t carry same hair for months. Also revamp your wardrobe by exploring bold styles. By doing this, you will not only feel good about yourself, it will also make your boyfriend go crazy and make him miss you more by not being able to see you in person.

 
Whatever the situation might be, try to be honest with yourself and your partner. By being honest, your partner will definitely trust and love you. Try to be positive and make the best of your relationship by communicating openly, motivating, caring for each other and finally taking the effort to spend time with one another.  Be patient,give him space, who knows he might genuinely miss you and no sooner you may both have your happy ending. 

couple playing on the grass

 Deadly mistakes of long distance relationship

 

  1. Letting your relationship get boring: Because there are oceans between you and your partner, boredom can silently creep into your relationship. Don’t constrain your Relationship to just texting. Be creative, play online games, watch same movie and talk about it. Find new ways to spend time together.

  2. Comparing your relationship with others: Constantly comparing your relationship with other people’s relationship only makes your partner feel horrible for not being able to give you what you want in the relationship. Be thankful for what you have and understand that you are not the only one dealing with the distance, your partner is, too.

  3. Not communication and listening properly: During conflicts, some people run their mouth and don’t listen while others stay quiet and don’t talk at all. Both are bad. You’re not being respectful for your partner’s feelings and what they have to say. On the other side, if you’re just sitting there not expressing your feelings, then not only will nothing be resolved. but also those feelings will probably be bottled up and things will begin to fall apart.

  4. Being in love with the idea of love: You need to know that there will be UPS and DOWNS in your Relationship. You’re both human with your own personalities and flaws. There will be times when you mess up, sometimes your partner is going through a rough time, so they won’t be able to be as romantic or attentive to you. It’s important that you’re in love with them and not just the idea of evergreen love.

  5. Not taking responsibility for actions: No one said that swallowing your pride is easy. But think of it this way :IS PROTECTING YOUR OWN PRIDE WORTH LOSING YOUR RELATIONSHIP? By repeatedly denying that what you did to your partner was wrong you’re belittling them and invalidating their feelings. Acknowledge that you hurt your partner, and apologize and your apology should not include “BUT”.

  6. Not giving enough time or giving too much time: Why bother being in a relationship if you’re not willing to put time into it? A Relationship is a commitment,and you can’t neglect it and expect your relationship to live or flow normal. On the flip side, you cannot spend every hour, minute, second with your partner, no matter how much some of us might want to. Just make sure you talk at least once every few days.

 Advantages of long distance relationships

  1. Having time away from each other can be healthy: When you have time away from each other, you always have new things to bring to the conversation when you chat online. It also makes your time spent together more special and intense. Time spent apart also makes for more time to reflect and follow your own pursuits and interests. Essentially, you learn to be independent.

  2. More exotic travel opportunities: One of the fun things about LDR is that you get to go and see the place where your partner lives, as well as to show them around where you live. For sure, the travel can be expensive as well as time-consuming, but those negatives can be outweighed by the joy of seeing your partner and interest of visiting another place.You can also decide to meet in a new place, which is either half way between you, or just somewhere that you both desire to visit.

  3. If your relationship survives, you know it is strong: LDRs do present some extra challenges that don’t exist when you are seeing each other in person on a regular basis, but if you overcome these challenges, then your relationship may end up strengthened. That might seem counter-intuitive, but there are many that can vouch that if the romance can survive the distance, it can survive anything.

  4. You must learn to trust: Issues of trust, loyalty and commitment are usually very important in all relationships,but in a LDR, where your partner can be socializing and having fun without you, It can be easy to get jealous or resentful. You have to recognize and conquer these types of insecurity if your relationship is to thrive. There are many rewards if you learn to be trusting and trustworthy. Assumptions kills fast, avoid it.

  5. Both are equally involved: Long distance romance require a total commitment by both partners if they’re to have any chance of working. Communicating regularly has to be organized and meeting in person costs time and money to arrange. The effort is usually all worth it, of course, but there’s less room for plain sailing.

  6. You always have something to look up to: It can feel great to have someone special to talk with at the end of each day, or at weekends. It can keep you going through a tough schedule at work, as well as through some of life’s other challenges. Chats, calls, messages are extra special when you’re apart from your loved one. Trips where you meet up in person are also fun to plan and the sense of anticipation they provide can bring almost as much joy as actually meeting.

  7. You get to know each other without the physical distraction: Long distance romance generally ensure that there is a long period of getting to know each other via texts, calls or other communication medium. Of course, there is always some danger that you aren’t physically attracted when you do eventually meet up, but one should never underestimate the power communication for the well being of a relationship.

  8. It’s less mundane: LDR can intensify the moments you spend with each other, as when your time is limited, it often becomes more valuable and special. You also don’t have the same scope for getting bored of each other, like you do when you are meeting all the time and for long periods. The time spent apart also means that you both have new things to bring to the conversation that the other doesn’t know about. Then when you do actually meet in person, it tends to be more exciting than a “NORMAL DATE”.

 Disadvantages of long distance relationship

  1. Trust Issues: Two people socializing and having fun separately can create an atmosphere of mistrust and jealousy.Both of you have to learn to be both trusting and trustworthy if the Relationship is to work.

  2. Loneliness: No matter how strong that your LDR may seem, there will be times when you just want your partner to be there for you physically. Maybe you’ve had a tough day and need a hug. There is a limit to how much involvement there can be when two people live far apart.

  3. Misunderstandings: When you are communicating through words and there is little body language and other social clues to go on, it’s much easier for misunderstandings to occur. Texts and calls can be particularly bad for causing confusion and arguments. If you live in different to time zones, sometimes it can be difficult when you’re scheduling to call. There are just a lot more things that can go wrong when you’re trying to communicate over long distance.

  4. Physical touch is limited: Obviously your sex life is going to be almost non-existent in a LDR, both things like cuddling and holding hands are absent too. Generally, you just have words to convey your feelings and sometimes doesn’t feel like it’s enough.

  5. Expenses: LDR can be costly for starters, all of the travelling involved can take lots of money. Then there is the extra expenses that can be occurred from the internet, social media, phone calls and text messages especially those in international relationship. It may seem mean to mention money but the truth is that strained finances can be a source of contention in relationships, especially if one partner earns more than the other.

  6. Travelling can get tiresome: Whether you’re traveling to another town or city each weekend to see your partner or flying to another country several times a year. The travel can become hard work over an extended period. Even though you may look forward to meeting with your partner,you can dread the travel.

  7. Growing apart: This issue tends to be bigger if your relationship started out as one where you are always together, but change due to you or your partner having to move away due to school, or through work requirements. The whole dynamics of the relationship can be radically altered as it can be easy to be drawn in by new surroundings and people and the “old” relationship can gradually fade. The challenges can be very serious, especially for younger people.

In conclusion, a long distance relationship ( LDR) requires communication and trust. There will be rough patches, of course, but if each individual clearly knows the reason why they are in the relationship. Also recognizes their common goal to share life together, then the benefits of the outcome will outweigh the negatives.

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Brenda

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